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Conceal… Don’t feel…

So wait does this mean that if we took away the whole being able to produce ice thing. This movie might have been about depression?

Disney has come out and said it’s about anxiety and depression so… yeah

the writers literally said that Elsa is a metaphor for depression

Okay so I MIGHT BE depressed.  But it’s situationally-appropriate.  SEND COMFORTING WORDS AND CHOCOLATE.





John Scalzi gets it.

This is what I have been trying to say in so many words—all men aren’t menaces to women, but all women have been menaced by men.

I think that is an important distinction to make. However, I do feel like it shifts the focus away from the men who are doing the thing a bit, and panders more to the whiny men who “aren’t like that!!!” more than necessary.

Regardless, I am so glad to see another guy taking a stand about this shit.

Oh it is total pandering to those ass-butts. But It’s the first thing you have to do is confront that bullshit. You have to have an answer for it. I got into a LONG fight with someone on Facebook about that very thing. I lumped all men into the “can’t be trusted until proven otherwise” category and got shit upon shit for it. From a gay man. I’m like wtf, man.

Yeah, I got that JUST TODAY, a comment in response to a comment I left on an acquaintance’s journal.  I commented with a link to the “Schrodinger’s Rapist” article and the OP responded by saying it was just like being racist!  And that it would be wrong not to walk that fine line between self-protection and discrimination.  

Because women don’t already do that, apparently.  Because women don’t have to walk the fine line between mean girl for friendzoning and slut for having sex when they want to; for being pushy if they ask for a raise and being cowards if they don’t; for all the ways in which there is no sweet spot, there’s no way we can get it right just different ways we can be criticized.  


Do you ever like have a name totally ruined for you because you knew some asshole with that name and now no matter the person’s own virtues they have to get over this huge hurdle which is their name

Well of course.  I personally have a “NO JIMs” rule because of 3 men named Jim who treated me poorly.  OTOH I married two men named Mark (serially, not simultaneously).  

Men who want to be feminists do not need to be given a space in feminism. They need to take the space they have in society & make it feminist.
Kelley Temple, National Union of Students UK Women’s Officer  (via feministkitsch)

Kat Dennings for Zink Magazine


Almost got her!!! @marvel


Almost got her!!! @marvel

"Be the bigger person"



is bullshit advice.

My bigness is not determined by my capacity to quietly absorb bullying, degradation, or abuse.

Yes, this.

And really, the bigger person would give that bully a lesson so the bully doesn’t victimize another person.  NUKE THEM FROM ORBIT, IT’S THE ONLY WAY TO BE SURE.


I’d happily watch an 8 hour film adaptation of a book if it meant every little book detail was put in it

I’d happily pay the entire amount I won on Powerball to make the 7-season, 22-episodes per season, version of the Lymond Chronicles.  Of course I’d have to win Powerball first.  

[photo: blue plastic water bottle filled with candy]

[photo: candy]

Tuesday’s tributes from the office manager.  Note that I have lined up the unwrapped candies.  Yes, I’m a legal secretary who obsessively organizes things.  (It’s administrative assistant’s WEEK at my office, not just a day, we get treats every day for the week.  Yesterday we had bagels and fresh fruit.)